BE AUTHENTIC ON PURPOSE!

Imagine how it would feel if you designed your life around your own values rather than other peoples!

Have the last few years left you feeling a bit empty and drifting?

Does the future feel uncertain, scary or out of your control?

There may be things you can do to change these feelings.

Who are you serving if you are not living the highest version of yourselves? 

Who are we putting first? Is it our friends, family, ourselves? Or others?

We all need to have a clear out in our homes at times, this is also true in our personal lives. By this, I mean going through what we are doing with our time and how we feel about it.

If we are going places that are meaningful to us and where we feel we are making a difference in some way, then we are likely to feel happier and more contented than if we are not doing so

If we are having meaningful experiences with others that we find interesting and who we feel drawn towards then we are likely to feel valued and look forward to our days and weeks ahead together.

Part of the work I do involves taking an objective view of the circumstances and activities that are going on day to day in someone's life.  

It doesn't take a genius to figure out that if someone isn't doing things they enjoy or that they at least find beneficial in some way, some of the time. Then they are more likely to feel unhappy.

This doesn't have to be big dreams and long-term goals, it can be little things like making more time for fun we can enjoy with our friends and families or taking up a new activity in our local area.

It would be easy to think, 'yes I know all this and I don't need help with it, I'd rather save the money for something else' 

I've heard this many times and seen many people stay the same'

So If this is true, then why are you not already doing the things that you say want to be doing?  

I would guess for a variety of reasons. These are some of the most common reasons that people tell me why they aren't doing what they want to be doing with their lives.  

Not necessarily in order of priority- 

money, time, lack of energy, lack of motivation, not enough confidence, fear of failure, fear of success, bad luck, not feeling good enough, not feeling worthy, too disorganised, not strong enough, not brave enough, life's too hectic or too complicated, because of other people.

Now sometimes it is true that due to some responsibilities that we are committed to, like our full-time job or helping to run our family's lives. We no longer have the freedom to follow all the interests or goals we had when we were younger. It may not be realistic (SMART) or responsible to go on tour with a band for the rest of the year if it's not going to feed our family or pay our bills. But that doesn't mean we can't enjoy taking part in a smaller project as a hobby in our current life. Part of the work we will do together will be coming to terms with what we can't change, whilst at the same time working towards making meaningful and important realistic changes.
This could include being part of a local production of a play or show, or volunteering your time to a charitable cause you feel passionate about.

Why is this important?
Because we don't come here to just do meaningless things, or just to make money for other people.
If this sounds like you, then I strongly advise giving me a call to arrange to meet.  

Many of the people I have worked with over the past ten years have felt trapped in a life they do not enjoy and that they believe they did not choose.

When in fact they did choose many of the things that they ended up doing, sometimes by default in not being more decisive or proactive about what they wanted. So they settled for something else, something easier.

Most people choose the path of least resistance a lot of the time. Because it feels more comfortable. Feeling comfortable won't lead to profound growth or change. Getting out of our comfort zone, in the long run is far more likely to lead to feeling more alive and contented.

All the while we are making excuses as to why we are putting off trying something new or going back to an old practice or interest we used to enjoy. We are trying to stay in our comfort zone. This helps us to feel safe, but if we over protect ourselves it keeps us feeling stuck and trapped.

How does this work?

We begin with a one-hour consultation to discuss your personal circumstances, including your objectives, and goals as well as your obstacles and barriers.  

We agree on the focus for our work together over the course of sessions, usually around 24 regular sixty minute meetings over three to six  months to maintain the focus and monitor your progress.

Each month we will explore an area of your life that you feel has had a significant impact on you during the meetings as well as set weekly and monthly goals that are- specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-manageable, for us to monitor your process journey and progress.  

I'm looking forward to meeting with you.