Paul Weeden

Bring awareness & purpose to your life



Process your past, then design an inspiring & meaningful present

Who are we and how do we get here ?

We are born with complex minds and bodies, which we can use in a vast number of ways, to experience an even greater number of possibilities.
And yet many people are unhappy.

Why is this, in an age where we have more possibility and choice available than ever before in recorded history.
Why are so many people suffering from anxiety and depression ?

What can we do about it ?

First we need to accept what brought us to where we are, it was a process, we learned to live this way through our environment.

At times we might have thoughts and feelings that we don't like, that won't seem to go away.
The more we try to ignore them or block them, the more power they can seem to have over us.

Where does this power come from ?

It comes from our unconscious mind, it came into existence through our past experiences. it started in childhood.
It works a bit like a computer program that keeps running in the background even when we turn it off.

The good news is that through counselling, psychotherapy and coaching we can reshape how we think, feel and behave. Consciously making new choices that serve our personal growth. Committing to healthy relational connections, with interests and activities that we can ideally learn and thrive through the benefits they offer.

But firstly; we need to process and heal our past traumas, and then learn to re-frame the way we interpret and respond to our experiences.

What if?
The depression & anxiety many people
experience, is actually a healthy reaction
to many of the unhealthy circumstances people live under today

There’s nothing really wrong with how you are feeling; in fact it can be very useful information towards positive change

Paul Weeden

I came to working as a therapist through a love of working with people, a thirst for knowledge and a yearning to understand the mechanisms of the mind, emotions & the world we inhabit.
At the age of 31 I looked back at where I had put my attention mostly and had some serious regrets about the choices I had made. They had not helped me achieve my dreams or meet my expectations.
Learning about psychology and working as a counsellor in Sussex schools and the NHS helped me to understand people and the world a lot better, and helping professionals in London I saw how similar we all are in many ways.
Working through the past proved to not be enough and I found much of the training and personal therapy I received did not equip me to know how to live a balanced and happy life outside of the therapy & coaching arena.

Around 40 I was fed up with my daily physical aches and pains, and I discovered there might be more to them than just getting older. I became interested in ’embodiment’ – the mind/body connection. Many great master teachers had given me glimpses of this previously.
I revisited my interest and commitment to ancient practices such as karate and yoga. And I made an effort to dance more again, it’s a great way to loosen  joints and stiff muscles.
I also learned through somatic coaching that the body stores emotions at a cellular level, as well as a story about what we have been through, often leading to physical ailments. I’ve learned to ask myself, how am I breathing? Is it helping me, am I relaxed or tense?
I’ve also committed to my passion for making music as part of my life and I took on an MA in Music at University of Sussex.

Every week I train and study martial artists, inspired by people like Bruce Lee and I’ve committed to working towards achieving my 1st Dan black belt. As well as learning Systema Russian martial arts, a system based on breathing and relaxing under pressure.

Most recently I discovered the Wim Hof Method “The Iceman”
& Patrick McKeown’s The Oxygen Advantage

I took a workshop training with Tim Van der Vliet in Holland. Science backs up that these body and breath practices have the power to repair our autoimmune system, improve the quality of our blood cells and improve our mental health.

But most of all I have learned that most of the depression and anxiety I’ve seen in my clients is a normal response, like a warning light to our modern sedentary and often superficial lifestyles.

Repressing our true selves through fear of being rejected is not a healthy or fair way to live.

Fearing what your partner or colleagues really think of you or will do, if they knew who you really long to be.
Most of this is so subtle we don’t even notice we are playing this game most of the time.
As with any perceived cage – in order to break free from it, it will take – time, commitment & courage.

Carlos Castaneda’s Don Juan said – ‘To become a man of knowledge we must first conquer – fear, clarity, power, and old ag

Personal & professional coaching

Mind & body practice for life.
Increase awareness, learn to relax, breathe fully & efficiently, have more fun & get fitter.
Bring meaning and purpose through personal interests into your work & personal life.
Learn to do what you do more efficiently & effectively.

- One-to-one sessions -
- Group workshops -

Embodiment Coaching – what is it & who can benefit?

Bringing mind & body into self development, counselling and coaching for professionals, athletes, martial artists, performers and musicians.
Most of us never learned how to breathe, if we don't breathe well everything else is more difficult.
It's hard to know what we need when we are overwhelmed and stressed, distracted or numbed out.
We can build balance into our lives, by learning to recognize the patterns when we get out of balance.
Are you typically earthy and grounded,but perhaps lacking spontaneity ?
or up in the clouds airy & dreamy but lacking strong roots and support ?
Could you make use of being more effective with your inner fire ?
Or would you like to learn to flow and adapt like water ?
We are more likely to feel fulfilled and able to meet our physical and emotional needs if we understand how our patterns and traits serve or limit us.
Most of our lives we run on fear rather than love and trust.
We mistakenly opt to play it safe rather than push and expand ourselves towards learning & growth.
This typically shows up as putting money & a sensible yet perhaps unfulfilling career before everything else.
Is it any wonder so many of us reply on medication caffeine & alcohol to get through the week ?

Integrating psychology modalities

humanistic counselling

Carl Rogers - the actualising tendency, the core conditions
Fritz Perls – non verbal communication, body awareness & cycle of experience

psychodynamic counselling

Sigmund Freud - the influence the past has on us through our unconscious thoughts & behaviour
Carl Jung - Archetypes; how the shadow & the persona impact on how we live

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

Learn to replace outdated thinking with more constructive and helpful thoughts & communication
Aaron Beck -“If our thinking is bogged down by distorted symbolic meanings, illogical reasoning and erroneous interpretations, we become, in truth, blind and deaf”.

how this works


After first contact we agree to an assessment session to discuss your situation and needs


We then need to arrange a working agreement which will contain specifics of the initial
6 -12 sessions


We will agree the focus of the work, the content you wish to bring, and the goal & desired outcome


There will be homework in the form of reflecting on the sessions, keeping a journal on thoughts, feelings & relevant life events


Pricing Plans



Per one hour session

  • Assessment meeting £25
  • Agreed number of clinical sessions
  • Agreed suitable time & location
  • Working agreement including focus & desired outcome

mind/body coaching


Per two hour session

  • Assessment meeting £25
  • Agreed suitability for body & movement based work
  • Agreed suitable spacious location
  • Agreed area of self development for focus of work

Self development workshops


four half day sessions

  • Mood & state managment toolbox
  • Stop smoking easily & effectively for good
  • Communication skills for work & personal life
  • Mind body awareness & growth

Corporate & team building workshops –
please contact me

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Get In Touch!

The Albert Buildings
49 Queen Victoria Street, London EC4N4SA
Dove Lodge,
49 Beach Road, Littlehampton, BN14

07900 822973

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