Bring awareness & purpose to your life
Process your past, then design an inspiring & meaningful present
What I can help you with –
At some point, almost everyone experiences some of the symptoms of depression. Often we don’t know why at first. It can feel like our shadow self in running our life, and it may show up as a loss of interest in our usual interests or social circle. We might notice that we are more judgemental and critical.
We may feel withdrawn or disconnected from the world and have less or no motivation for life or work.
In my experience in many cases, depression is often trying to communicate some information that we may or may not already know. Often it can be around a loss or after a negative experience.
Or a reaction to a toxic environment or situation.
Through counselling and psychotherapy, we can learn to process our experience and release the negative emotions from our past and move from a sense of powerlessness and victimhood to powerful and energized.
The way we achieve this is through partly processing the past traumas that have hurt us, and shifting our perspective to a more positive and uplifting one.
We can also make this enjoyable by helping you to explore activities you find stimulating and inspiring, as well as therapeutic and restorative.
Sometimes depression is historic and linked to an early life experience that we may have repressed, or still be carrying as if we are still back there.
Often this can appear as the other side of depression.
For example a depressed person can feel anxious when confronted with an opportunity to engage socially in a way they have not done for a while.
It is also often present in dysfunctional working arrangements where employees and staff needs are not being met, and unsustainable
demands are being put on individuals.
Often a person will experience an increase in anxious symptoms but in many cases not know why this is.
A lot of my counselling and coaching work is around uncovering how the anxious symptoms are like warning lights telling us that something needs to change.
You might notice that inside you, your inner child is like a scared child trying to hide.
Breath-work can be a great way to take back control by getting our sense of self back into the body and getting balanced and grounded. Often we will not breathe effectively or efficiently when we are anxious.
Learning how to communicate effectively can help to relieve anxious feelings, as the feelings are often based on what we believe or imagine rather than reality. When we learn to ask with confidence, for what we need, this can help to shift anxiety.
Panic can be linked to an unprocessed traumatic experience. This can include being assaulted either emotionally or physically. Sometimes we may feel psychologically harmed by someone who has power or responsibility overuse like an employer or someone we trust intimately.
In many of the cases I’ve worked on around panic symptoms, people can dread and fear the past repeating, which is why it shows up as panic symptoms in the present.
This can lead to beliefs and presumptions about ourselves and others in our current environment.
Sometimes they may be partly true, but often it is a projection.
By speaking to those around us that we trust about our concerns and needs, can help to breakdown the disempowering panic symptoms. As we will often come up with new ways of being and working through this process.
Most of us don’t think a lot about how we communicate until we come to some sort of self-development work. When we do, we often find we tend to communicate in one or two ways that often happen unconsciously a lot of the time.
We might learn that they don’t help us to get our point across or feel heard or understood.
Parent. Adult. Child
This is a communication model from Transactional Analysis that can help us to explore which mode of communication we tend to use, as well as what we are experiencing from others.
As well as what we can do to change the dysfunctional communication in our lives.
Personality & character-
Our self-identity and character can feel in crisis at worst or integrated, balanced and whole, when at our best.
The ancient four elements model-earth, water, fire & air can be a really useful tool for exploring how we typically show up in any situation.
Are we a very earthy and consistently reliable colleague, or a fluid and watery, adaptable and accommodating friend.
Or would we like to be more assertive and efficient and make positive use of our inner fire.
Essentially this area of my coaching and counselling work helps clients to explore the sides of their identity they use the most. As well as which they would like to develop more of.
Focus and goals-
Many of the clients I’ve treated are experiencing difficulty staying focused, and deciding which goals to work on.
Often they are creative professionals who get stuck in certain unhelpful repetitive patterns like stagnation.
By exploring what gets in the way of their focus and goals. Often we will find procrastination, fear of failure or success even, and low self-worth.
We can put a strategy together to make success around achieving goals and staying present and focused more likely to happen.
One of the keys to this is a balance, through regular breath practice and activity that engages your body in a meaningful way you can learn about yourself from.
Almost everyone we know has relationship difficulties at times, with partners, friends, colleagues, and family.
Investing some time to explore what is going on for you and the other people in your life. By learning to consider other perspectives, this can help to break through stuck relationship dynamics, and breathing new life into your relationships.
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The depression & anxiety many people
experience, is actually a healthy reaction
to many of the unhealthy circumstances people live under today
There’s nothing really wrong with how you are feeling; in fact it can be very useful information towards positive change
I’m a dad, a musician/producer, and a physical activity fanatic. As well as for many years having a deep interest in the human psyche and self-development work.
I love exploring interesting and exciting new things, and strive to confront my fears, but I haven’t always been this way.
I’ve practiced yoga, meditation and more recently cold therapy and breath-work (Wim Hof).
As well as a variety of martial arts over three decades. They’ve helped me be more balanced and live a calmer life.
As well as being great teachers in that we can use them to learn about our potential and capability. But also our limitations and vulnerability.
I’m read a lot of different psychological theories and philosophies. I particularly enjoy Jungian and existential psychology, and find out about the different personas that inhabit our minds and bodies, and the purpose and meaning behind behaviour. I find it very intriguing how they show themselves at various times.
I’ve also enjoyed learning from a variety of academic as well as nonprofessional teachers, including the likes of Bruce Lee, Wendy Palmer, Jordan Peterson, Wim Hof, and Bren Browne, to name a few.
I feel we also can learn so much about the fragility of the human condition from the stories, and unfortunate tragedies of many great artists like Jimi Hendrix, Jaco Pastorius, Janis Joplin, and Jim Morison.
I came to counselling and coaching work quite naturally through my passion for self-development and self-expression. As well as a desire to understand myself and the world better, and to learn to adapt better to change.
“Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Reinhold Niebuhr AMERICAN THEOLOGIAN
I treat clients at my London Bridge practice, as well as in Hove and Littlehampton West Sussex.
The advanced Bacp accredited diploma I completed in Integrative humanistic/psychotherapeutic counselling at Cppd North London taught me a lot about how the past influences us all in the present. This has also given me some useful tools for helping to reframe and see things from different perspectives.
I became interested in coaching through body (somatic) awareness through my interest in martial arts and yoga ‘Integration Training’.
This allowed me to spend a year intensively practicing a Russian martial art called ‘Systema’ for several hours a week.
This was a fantastic and fun learning opportunity in exploring how we respond under pressure once our fight/flight response has been triggered. The interesting thing is that we all have similar responses in stressful conditions, whether the stress we are experiencing is a physical threat or a more benign psychological or emotional challenge, such as we might experience with our colleagues and friends.
What this means is we are programmed to often overreact to many situations as if they are life-threatening. This is partly because it was far more likely to be a useful response for many of our ancestors. As they were forced to live in survival mode a lot more of the time than we are today.
As well as being great fun, this playful embodied practice has helped to nurture my previously repressed and wounded inner-child. By investing time in getting away from technology and sedentary meaningless existence and getting back into the way the body has evolved to be used.
In my experience everyone has a past they need to spend some time getting to know better. We all have a shadow side that we could benefit from getting to know and understanding better. Especially when we are not at our best. Then we can have more options available to use and help us to have better outcomes in the future.
Surely that is preferable and more responsible than ignoring the sides of ourselves that we try to conceal. Possibly leading to a nasty surprise when something unfortunate and unexpected happens.
Perhaps a situation where we don’t know how best to respond or stay calm.
In my experience, such events show up in complex and sometimes toxic family dynamics, dysfunctional business arrangements where high degrees of stress are likely, or personal crises involving litigation and financial disputes. As well as health, wellbeing and safety are compromised.
At such times we are far more vulnerable to impulsive reactions and behaviour. We will very likely unconsciously try to self soothe, often through over-relying on alcohol and drugs. These are the times we are most likely to overreact and make regrettable mistakes.
What I offer is a holistic therapeutic system of self-development, utilizing body wisdom. A mind, body and lifestyle toolbox, an ethical commitment and container for you to show yourself, as you truly are. So that you have the opportunity to adapt and develop new ways of being.
Then you can feel better, more confident and stronger about yourself, and do what is necessary for your wellbeing and self-care in your daily life.
Embodiment Coaching – what is it & who can benefit?
how this works
After first contact we agree to an assessment session to discuss your situation and needs
We then need to arrange a working agreement which will contain specifics of the initial
6 -12 sessions
We will agree the focus of the work, the content you wish to bring, and the goal & desired outcome
There will be homework in the form of reflecting on the sessions, keeping a journal on thoughts, feelings & relevant life events